If you’ve been feeling invisible in midlife, it might not be because you lack confidence—it might be because you’ve been self-editing. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini breaks down why smart, capable women often soften their opinions, over-explain their boundaries, and wait for the “perfect wording”… then wonder why they feel unseen.
You’ll learn The Unwaiting Rule for Visibility—say it before it’s perfect—and a practical communication tool called The Brave Sentence Method (Truth + Boundary + Next Step). Holly gives real examples you can borrow for work meetings, family dynamics, body commentary, health advocacy, relationships, and showing up online—without turning into someone you’re not.
Plus, you’ll get a 7-day practice called Unwaiting Visibility Week: tiny daily reps designed to build confidence through evidence (not hype). If you’re ready to stop living in draft mode, speak up with clarity, and take up space without apologizing, this episode is your next step.
What You’ll Learn
- Why “polite” often becomes self-editing (and how it makes you disappear)
- The Unwaiting Rule for Visibility: say it before it’s perfect
- The Brave Sentence Method: Truth + Boundary + Next Step
- How to speak up, set boundaries, and show up online without overthinking
- The 7-day Unwaiting Visibility Week challenge (with daily prompts)
Timestamps (Approx.)
- 0:00 — Cold open: “You’re not invisible. You’re editing yourself out.”
- 1:25 — How self-editing shows up (texts, meetings, boundaries, posting)
- 3:15 — Why self-editing isn’t maturity—it’s self-protection
- 5:10 — Why visibility feels extra loaded in midlife
- 6:55 — The Unwaiting Rule for Visibility: say it before it’s perfect
- 9:45 — The Brave Sentence Method (Truth + Boundary + Next Step)
- 12:30 — Scripts you can steal: work, family, body talk, doctor visits, dating
- 17:30 — What to do when you wobble (return > spiral)
- 19:00 — Unwaiting Visibility Week: the 7-day community challenge
- 25:45 — CTA: The Unwaiting Quick Start Guide (clarity + next step in 24 hours)
- 27:45 — Unwaiting Roll Call + Receipts (closing ritual)
Unwaiting Visibility Week (Challenge)
Day 1: Share one opinion you usually swallow
Day 2: Say a clean no (no over-explaining)
Day 3: Ask for what you want in one sentence
Day 4: Post/share something at 80% done
Day 5: Use the Brave Sentence Method once
Day 6: One visibility rep (pitch/apply/speak up/comment)
Day 7: Write 5 “receipts” (what you proved you can do)
Community prompt:
DM or message Holly: “I’m unwaiting on ___, and my Day 1 rep is ___.”
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