If New Year’s resolutions have ever made you feel like you’re starting the year already behind… this episode is for you.
Because the problem isn’t that you’re “bad at goals.” The problem is the story January sells women—especially smart, high-functioning women: the real you arrives after you fix yourself.
In this episode, Holly breaks down why resolutions often backfire (hint: they’re usually trying to solve a self-trust problem with a self-control strategy), how “waiting mode” disguises itself as planning and research, and what to do instead if you want a January reset that actually sticks.
You’ll learn how to replace resolutions with standards, make decisions your nervous system can sustain, and build confidence the way it’s actually built: through small, consistent acts of self-trust.
In this episode, we cover:
- Why resolutions aren’t “bad,” but the meaning behind them keeps women stuck
- What “waiting mode” really looks like (and why it isn’t laziness)
- The difference between fixing energy and leadership energy
- Why extreme goals trigger rebellion and vague goals create paralysis
- Three “January standards” that build momentum without perfectionism
- The one question that can change your year: What would I do if I trusted myself 10% more today?
Your next step
Take The 5-Minute Midlife Confidence Quiz.
“In five minutes, you’ll see what’s actually keeping you in waiting mode—and what to do next.”
Share this episode with a friend who:
- starts over every January
- waits to feel ready before she begins
- is tired of trying to fix herself to earn her life
Chapters
00:00 The New Year Dilemma
02:59 Understanding Resolutions and Self-Management
05:52 The Shift from Resolutions to Standards
08:41 Building Self-Trust and Momentum
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