In this episode of “How to Lose the Weight,” host Holly Toscanini introduces the self-trust rule for 2026, emphasizing the importance of self-trust in decision-making.
She argues that if a decision costs you self-trust, it costs too much. Holly discusses the common cycle of New Year’s resolutions that often lead to feelings of failure and self-rejection, suggesting that many women feel stuck because they approach self-improvement from a place of self-criticism rather than self-acceptance. Instead of striving for a ‘new you,’ Holly encourages listeners to focus on becoming a more aligned version of themselves, one that honors their body, intuition, and values.
Throughout the episode, Holly provides practical tools for listeners to assess their decisions through four key questions that help gauge whether a choice will strengthen or weaken their self-trust.
She emphasizes that clarity comes from movement, not rigid resolutions, and encourages small, self-trusting actions rather than overwhelming overhauls. By the end of the episode, listeners are equipped with actionable steps to foster a healthier relationship with themselves, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and authentic life in 2026.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Self-Trust Rule for 2026
05:46 The Need for Self-Acceptance Over Fixing
12:04 Movement Over Perfection: Finding Clarity
1️⃣ The 5-Minute Midlife Confidence Quiz
If you want to understand where you are on your self-trust and reinvention journey, start here.
The 5-Minute Midlife Confidence Quiz helps you see your current phase—so you’re not just vaguely inspired, you have language for where you are.
You’ll find out whether you’re currently:
- The Awakening Woman
- The Inner Critic Warrior
- The Intuitive Seeker
- The Embodied Confidence Woman
- The Reinvention Ready Woman
And you’ll get a personalized confidence plan with specific ideas for next steps that support your self-trust instead of draining it.
2️⃣ The Intuitive Pivot Planner
If you’re ready to stop waiting for the “New You” and start making tiny, real-world shifts, the Intuitive Pivot Planner is your next step.
It’s a simple, guided tool that helps you:
- Get honest about what’s keeping you stuck
- Hear what your intuition is actually saying
- Choose your next tiny, self-trusting decision—instead of another overwhelming overhaul
Think of it as a way to practice the “clarity comes from movement” principle in your real life.
👉 Get the Intuitive Pivot Planner here
3️⃣ The Unwaiting Quick Start Guide
If you’re ready to go a little deeper and create real momentum, the Unwaiting Quick Start Guide takes these ideas and walks you through a focused jump-start.
It’s designed to help you:
- Identify where you’ve been waiting on permission, readiness, or perfection
- Map out a few key areas where you’re ready to stop postponing your life
- Take aligned, doable action that builds—not drains—your self-trust
It’s the bridge between “I love this idea” and “I’m actually living it.”
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